A non-guidey guide from a 'Soon-to-be Bride' Part 9

In last month's blog, Steph shared the sad news with us that her wedding day had to be postponed to November due to the Coronavirus pandemic.  Here's how she's doing after a few weeks of getting her head around the changes...

"Hello, how are you?"

This feels like a question nowadays that comes with genuine interest / concern rather than just a standard British greeting, and people have such varying answers to this at the moment! 

I saw a quote the other day that said 'we are not all in the same boat, but we are weathering the same storm' which I feel is so relevant at the moment. I know there are some people who are in bigger, better boats than us, cruising along making the most of all this extra time, and being in a good place mentally...and there are certainly people in worse boats than us, whether it be money worries, living in an apartment, homeschooling or just trying to stay sane. 

I am trying my best to appreciate what's in my boat and throw overboard the things I no longer want in it with me, both physically and mentally. This is easier some days than others, some days we are chugging along nicely, the current carrying us through, and other days we feel like we’re rowing as fast as we can to keep up, but it’s OK as long as you keep moving. I'm very lucky to have a reliable shipmate, so no matter what kind of day it is, he's there keeping it ticking over for me even if I can't!

Anyway, enough of the boat metaphor! (I may be losing the plot slightly!) I am sat in my garden in the glorious sunshine with a beer on what would have been day 2 of my hen do wondering what on earth I am missing out on right now! My hen do crew have remained tight-lipped even though it's not going ahead at the moment, and have assured me it's best not to know what I'm missing out on because it's so good! 

Who knows how long I will have to wait to go on my hen do, and it may well be after the wedding now, which previously would have been unthinkable and would have felt like a big deal, however this situation really puts things into perspective and makes you realise that as long as you get that time with all your favourite people, it really doesn't matter when it happens. It’s the same with the wedding itself, a few months back I had a dream that I had to get married in my dressing gown as my dress didn't turn up and we didn't have time to do my makeup!  At the time that seemed like some sort of worst case scenario, now I feel like if that was the only way our day could go ahead in 25 days rather than 204, I'd take it!

Being given this time to stop, think and reflect is ultimately a good thing, it's made us take a step back from the wedding plans and spend more time together talking about things other than the wedding, and reminding ourselves why we are doing this in the first place! However I still have days where I have that pit in the stomach gutted feeling when I think about how exciting everything should be right now and our wedding stuff is all packed away for the time being, so I apologise that this is less about actual wedding planning and more about my feelings at the moment, but I did promise to share all the highs and lows of wedding planning, I could just never had imagine this would be the lows! But we all just need to keep plodding along and keep looking forward to those special days, because they will happen!

Your bride-to-be

Steph x